Pink Flags
There are certain behaviors and nuances, if you will, that when dating if all is going well, we look away. After all, we are looking to get married and “ make it work,” but once a shidduch is comfortably over, it’s good to acknowledge the pink flags; and this isn’t a dig at guys. I’m sure in reverse, there’s a meta-list for the girls…
He won’t open the door for you on “principal” because he doesn’t do anything for show, and bedavka the opposite, he’ll always open the door for his wife. But for you, here and now, you’re stam a date and “don’t warrant his chivalry.”
He can’t keep you “out” past 1.5 hours; he will seemingly turn into a pumpkin after that.
While playing the non-kosher version of perfect matches, if asked who your “celebrity crush” is, he says “Emily Ratajkowski” without missing a beat.
When at a restaurant and it’s time to order, and you decide on an innocent grilled chicken salad, he asks, “Are you sure you can eat all that?”
He insists you get a cocktail, even though you are a diet Coke kind of gal. Naturally, you choose something brooding, aka “Dark & Stormy.”
He tells you he has to end the date early because he’s going to a speed date event post this, yet he wants to continue with you.
He calls you out for yay/nay the vaccine and thinks you made the right/wrong political and health decision.
He takes more than 1.5 business days to get back to the shadchan.
NOTE THAT THIS LIST IS SHORT. On the flip side, some guys show us what it’s like to go out with a great guy, and for those mentchen, we are all considered lucky. Because overall, shidduchim is bein adam lechaveiro, and it’s about being a kind, solid person to the one who is in front of you.
Those guys who walk a girl post the date, follow protocols in the suavest, natural way, and are good at being present and making the person you’re sitting across feel heard and understood; kudos, and TY for the positive vibes.
