A Deer In Headlights

“Some are born great some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon em.” Chazal (as always) knew what they were saying when they said: “לפום צערא אגרא” according to the effort that goes into the toil, is the equal measurement of reward.

Think about it, if something truly spectacular happens, seemingly sans a hitch, do you appreciate it for what it is? If it would’ve been so effortless to land a position, or to find the perfect gift, or to meet that special someone, it would be harder to comprehend the significance of that “things” virtue. What I’m starting to see is, something significant happens when you remove the shield of inhibition; like stepping out of that comfort zone provides enough inertia to propel something incredible. I am so ready to BREAK THE ZONE.

Inhibitions are the handcuffs with which we imprison ourselves.

One of the hardest things to do is to put yourself out there, it’s basically you on a platter saying this is a(n) opportunity, person, thing that I think would be good for me and I’m willing to go out on a limb because the 20% chance of me being victorious outweighs the 80% of pseudo rejection. A beloved professor in college used to barrage us with “rejections energize me” now I’m not saying to seek rejection, no that will hurt. But find comfort in the vulnerability.

I came across the quote “loving yourself is worth the risk” to me it’s perceived as, if there is a situation in which you need clarity, and you do what a girls gotta do, even if the outcome wasn’t “according to plan” the clarity that ensues is a priceless gift you have bestowed upon yourself. Meaning, put yourself out there if the opportunity is a “No,” you can leave the situation scot-free and know that you tried. Till today I’m so grateful for the inertia I had when I was in a position in which I figured it was worth it to put myself out there.

When I told a gifted orator I could never imagine public speaking, he gave me that pep talk look (you know with the one arched brow) and said, “You can do it.” Simple. There’s a reason Nike was so forward thinking, “Just do it” is more then an athletes mantra, if you tell yourself, you are capable and what’s the worst that can happen? Nothing. Mistakes happen, words get jumbled, gifts break, relationships revolve, but that doesn't give you license to give up before you have even entered the arena. “Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” especially when you can win…back to what I said before, about a 20% chance to come out victorious, I think those who try, will always be a champion because living fully, sans regret is the ultimate win.